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She started crying and hid under a blanket for 10 minutes. I just sat there, letting her cry and feel her emotions. Then, figuring that was enough time, I pulled the blanket off her and restarted the conversation.

I reminded her of two very dear people who are close to her—one male and one female—had gone through breast cancer and survived. I reminded her that both people were healthy again and cancer-free. But, they are not mommy. They are not the person who is supposed to bring her to adulthood and guide her even if she kicked and screamed all through her teenage years. She saw mortality—mine—for probably for the first time.

I then put it to her as bluntly as possible: “I will be taken out by a TTC streetcar before this kills me.” That become my mantra with her through this long process.

I wanted her to come with me to get my hair buzzed off before I lost it to chemo but she would not. I think, in hindsight, just the same as I did then, she could not. I was hoping to make her laugh yet she did not find any humour in this. I did but that is another story (a story of clippers, a flagon of beer and a barber who made that experience the best possible and it was a very funny and fun experience that allowed me to have control over losing my hair).  Anyway, back to Jr. She was with me the night after my first chemo and I had no idea how it would hit me. It was New Year’s Eve (15 days after diagnosis) and I could not stay awake. I think it really sunk in for her that night.

As I went through chemo, my goal was to show her perseverance. Even if I was tired and my legs ached from the combination of chemo and Neuprogen, I made sure we did something, that we went out even if only for an hour or two. I wanted her to see that carrying on as normally as possible was not only a strategy for life in horrible circumstances but almost an act of defiance. Having written that, if I could have taught her anything in those months and the months of radiation and then two surgeries, it was strength is within and you can crumple or you can just keep going.  

After the last chemo treatment, she gave me this. And I am proud of her and her ability to make this card. And I am proud of her now, 2 years later, as she makes jokes about when I had no hair, about my “ta” as “you don’t have ta-tas.” I see resilience.

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(To be continued)




"I think it’s really important for women who’ve had breast cancer to know that there is life after cancer, that you can still be beautiful and vibrant."

Neve Tsai,  
Breast Cancer Survivor

2016-11-23T17:58:56+00:00

Neve Tsai,  
Breast Cancer Survivor

"I think it’s really important for women who’ve had breast cancer to know that there is life after cancer, that you can still be beautiful and vibrant."
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Cynthia Mulligan, 
TV Presenter and Cancer “Graduate”

2016-11-23T18:27:58+00:00

Cynthia Mulligan, 
TV Presenter and Cancer “Graduate”

"This is an amazing program to help women find themselves again, so they can go on to have an amazing life, because life is worth living!"
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John Tory,
Mayor of Toronto,
Former ABC Ambassador

2016-11-23T18:46:26+00:00

John Tory,
Mayor of Toronto,
Former ABC Ambassador

“We need people like Alicia, and the people she’s motivated, with a passion to do this... let’s support this organization, because there are a lot of people in this city who need this sort of help.”


"If the After Breast Cancer Program didn't exist, I would be still stuffing my old bras with anything I could  find and hoping that it matched close enough for others not to notice. Thank you for everything you do to help women like me!”

Elizabeth Johnson,
Breast Cancer Survivor

2016-11-23T18:52:02+00:00

Elizabeth Johnson,
Breast Cancer Survivor

"If the After Breast Cancer Program didn't exist, I would be still stuffing my old bras with anything I could  find and hoping that it matched close enough for others not to notice. Thank you for everything you do to help women like me!”

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